Thursday, September 6, 2007
So, you've decided to take the plunge and follow in the
footsteps of countless other singles who know that online
dating is a successful route to meeting new friends and
finding the perfect partner. But, what do you do when you
find someone you like?
Initially, you'll want to keep all communication by email
and get to know a little more about the other person. Email
also gives you time to think about what you want to say
whilst allowing you the distance and privacy to keep things
from moving too quickly. And just like your daily post,
you'll be surprised how much you will look forward to
checking your inbox to see if you have new mail!
Once an email friendship has been established you may feel
comfortable enough to talk over the telephone. Take your
time over giving out your telephone number though, if you
decide that you don't want to pursue the friendship you
can't take your number back.
Ok. Let's assume that you've emailed and chatted on the
telephone. You've decided that you really like this person
and would love to meet up. Stop right there! Before you get
carried away with the excitement that the prospect of new
love brings, read these important safety tips prior to
taking the final step of meeting that great new date:
. Always tell a friend where and when you are meeting.
. Don't give out personal information unless you feel
confident to do so, especially your home address.
. Never give out personal financial details. Never give or
send out money to someone you've just met.
. If travelling to meet, make your own arrangements for
overnight accommodation and don't give out the name or
address of your hotel.
. Follow your instincts. If you feel unsafe of unsure of
your situation, never be embarrassed or afraid to make your
excuses and leave.
On the whole, just like in everyday life, most people you
meet via the Internet will be genuine but it is important to
be aware that some may not. Just following a few basic rules
will ensure your safety. You might even want to arrange to
'check in' with a friend to let them know how the date is
going - if your friends are as nosey as mine this will be
the first thing they ask you to do!
Finally, relax and enjoy yourself. You never know, it could
be the start of something beautiful.
Dating Tips: How to Get Yourself A Date
Well, if you didn't give that someone a bad impression of yourself, chances are, both of you would be already friends at least? A friend, not being dislike by him or her? Ok, now is the time you can progress a little further, taking a little more actions. But before so, it might be good to take notes of the followings:
For Guys, please understand that girls enjoy the process of being pursued. You have got to play this game well. Take things at a step; let the rhythm flow gradually and smoothly. Let her enjoy the process; make her feel that very value that is within herself.
For girls, do note that guys generally like girls who are more gentle and caring. Don't be too fierce scaring the guys away. Likewise, don't always put on that cold swanky look. Guys are generally not very patient creatures. Not matter how beautiful you are, you will eventually just turn them off.
Always take things slowly. Do not just walk straight to her and tell her "I love you, can you please be my girlfriend?" and vice versa for girls. You would most probably just scare him or her off, be patient. Well perhaps starting off with a little simple request for help would be ideal? Ok, I know it may sounds like a very old boring tactics. But believe me, it works! At least most of the times.
For example, a girl can take the excuse of learning to play the guitar from the guy. "Hey Rick you know, I have always dream of learning to play the guitar, I was thinking it would be so cool if you can find some time to teach me?" Well, if the guy has got no bad impression of you, chances are he will say yes. Afterall, it won't really take up much of his time and it is something that he himself is interested in.
The same works for guys. Hmm… perhaps a little request for help in learning of some sign language? "Hi Lynn, I know you are helping out at the Deaf Associations. Well, I just started on my basic sign language classes recently, just wondering whether you be free to help me with my revision?" Do you think she will reject you? I believe a kind-hearted girl like Lynn won't mind sparing a little time to help you.
Ha, hope the examples I quoted didn't sound too silly? But think about it, it's not really that hard to request for a little help from your friend. Would you reject your friends if they required your help instead? As long as it doesn't take up too much of your time and is within your capability, I am sure you won't mind helping them out?
Ok, now let us assume both Rick & Lynn's answer is yes. Isn't that the beginning of a simple wonderful date? Some very personal time between both? Well, when there is a first time, a next time won't be hard to come by. Don't you see the possibility of a real date on its way? I am sure you can come out with better excuses, better ideas of your own. The rest is all up to you, if things are meant to be, love will sparkle off between both of you.
Rick Valens
Staff Writer for http://www.loveletterbox.com , Love Relationship Discussion Forum
Currently also freelance writer for http://www.ecemetery.org,
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Dating Online - The new way to meet people
A lot has changed since the days of matchmaking and escorted evenings out. Dating in the 21st century has taken many turns, among these the emerging popularity of meeting partners online.
Online dating has many benefits. The shy dater can open up and get to know a person without having to deal with first-date jitters that often come from fear of the unknown. By the time he or she meets the potential paramour, they have already established a comfort level that allows the date to flow much more smoothly.
At the other end of the spectrum, social butterflies love online dating because of the number of fish in the sea. With so many people to choose from, booking several dates in a short amount of time is easy. Online dating allows you to be discreet, and it also enables you to be choosy. You choose partners based on common interests gleaned from dating profiles. This is an attractive alternative to approaching a potential mate in a bar going on looks alone.
As the online dating community has grown, so too have the number of vendors willing to help you promote yourself. Professional writers and photographers offer services to assist you with your dating profile. They hawk services to help you attract more hits to your online profile, which obviously helps lead to more dating options.
Dating websites vary. Some require a fee to enjoy certain benefits, such as the ability to post a picture or short video. Other dating sites offer free private e-mail accounts and access to thousands of profiles without paying a dime. When engaging in online dating, however, it is important to exercise caution.
Remember that anyone with Internet access has access to these sites. It is virtually impossible for dating sites to weed out the bad seeds; the online dater must take care in setting up dates with strangers. When first meeting face-to-face, choose a public place. Don't divulge too much information until you have a good idea of the person's character. Be careful not to tell too much too soon. With a responsible attitude and an open mind, online dating can be fun, safe, and exciting.
About The Author:
Jeff Lakie is the founder of Dating Resources a website providing information on Dating Online
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